I spend some time last year trying to find a boyfriend. Given that I was on the rebounds, it probably was not a good idea. At one point, I almost lost a good friend because of it.
So now that I am NOT looking for a boyfriend I thought it might be a good idea to put myself on one of those popular Internet dating sites. I figure I can now be more objective and selective. One of the things they ask you is about your religion or spirituality. I had a hard enough time trying to answer that before I committed myself to a path. I put, "Spiritual, but not religious". How does one include the fact that you honor more than one god and that the god, might be a GODDESS? I could, however, come right out with it and post it in my profile, "I AM A PAGAN!" but I am not sure how well that would go over. What type of guys would I attract if I posted that in my profile? My assumption is that guys will think I was CRAZY and therefore I am not worthy of dating.
...But then again, you know what they say about crazy women in bed.
I did, however, post that gentlemen who are NOT seeking balance do NOT need to apply. I mentioned my spirituality is very important to me and do not hold to traditional views. I noted that I have a strong background in math and science AND since I write in my spare time, their words have to impress me.
Despite the disclaimer, I think I have been getting the same round of guys I did over a year ago: horny guys (and not in the coolio deity way), scary guys who look like they just got out of prison, Cling-on guys (pitifully desperate guys), guys who struggled thru remedial 2nd grade reading/writing and guys, well, that are just PLAIN BORING guys. Some just wink at me because I mention that I do belly dancing. Some do not know who they are winking to at all. They just WINK, sorta like a nervous twitch or something, I guess. I had one guy who posted in his profile that he was of two religions, his mother is a Catholic and his father is a Christian. His email to me included some other blatantly obvious sexual innuendos.
I told one of my Fraters about my dating issues and he offered me the following advice, "You need to find someone that you can share your life with"
I wondered if I can just marry myself to the order and just be done with it. My Soror did offer me this advice, "be careful, because the order can be a fickle lover". hmmmmm
That's okay, at least I wont scare anyone away when they see the huge sharp ceremonial sword by my bed!