Sunday, November 14, 2010

Dating Sucks and Dating Sites Are Even Suckier

I spend some time last year trying to find a boyfriend. Given that I was on the rebounds, it probably was not a good idea. At one point, I almost lost a good friend because of it.

So now that I am NOT looking for a boyfriend I thought it might be a good idea to put myself on one of those popular Internet dating sites. I figure I can now be more objective and selective. One of the things they ask you is about your religion or spirituality. I had a hard enough time trying to answer that before I committed myself to a path. I put, "Spiritual, but not religious". How does one include the fact that you honor more than one god and that the god, might be a GODDESS? I could, however, come right out with it and post it in my profile, "I AM A PAGAN!" but I am not sure how well that would go over. What type of guys would I attract if I posted that in my profile? My assumption is that guys will think I was CRAZY and therefore I am not worthy of dating.

...But then again, you know what they say about crazy women in bed.

I did, however, post that gentlemen who are NOT seeking balance do NOT need to apply. I mentioned my spirituality is very important to me and do not hold to traditional views. I noted that I have a strong background in math and science AND since I write in my spare time, their words have to impress me.

Despite the disclaimer, I think I have been getting the same round of guys I did over a year ago: horny guys (and not in the coolio deity way), scary guys who look like they just got out of prison, Cling-on guys (pitifully desperate guys), guys who struggled thru remedial 2nd grade reading/writing and guys, well, that are just PLAIN BORING guys. Some just wink at me because I mention that I do belly dancing. Some do not know who they are winking to at all. They just WINK, sorta like a nervous twitch or something, I guess. I had one guy who posted in his profile that he was of two religions, his mother is a Catholic and his father is a Christian. His email to me included some other blatantly obvious sexual innuendos.

I told one of my Fraters about my dating issues and he offered me the following advice, "You need to find someone that you can share your life with"

I wondered if I can just marry myself to the order and just be done with it. My Soror did offer me this advice, "be careful, because the order can be a fickle lover". hmmmmm

That's okay, at least I wont scare anyone away when they see the huge sharp ceremonial sword by my bed!


Robert said...

The sorer gave you better advice.

PhoenixAngel said...

@Frater Robert: really?

Monsignor Scott Rassbach said...

You know, you are a magician. If this is something that is really your will, you could do a working on it. Divination, attraction, attunement with Venus, with Mars, with whomever is in your house of relationships and home, etc. Ask the gods to provide, and they will.

PhoenixAngel said...

@Monsignor: Yes, I am a magician. I always hesistate when it comes to love matters because I am not sure if it is My Will. I havent been single for a long time so I knew I needed to work on myself before I began seeking another relationship. Maybe I will just ask the goddess if I am ready? Thanks for the input

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Josephus said...

I think clear and honest communication is a must. There will always be people outside of your sphere who you won't give a 2nd thought about. However, you might do so even when you thought "Never with that guy". Who knows. Sometimes the moment overwhelms. Obviously you don't need to be spilling your guts in the beginning. You can't let the doubt you have about potential partners be an impediment. I think most people are in conditional relationships. Adjustments may be in order if you really want something with someone.