Disclaimer: This post may be offensive to people who do not have a healthy attitude towards sex or do not like offensive language.
Since it is almost Valentine's Day, I thought I would offer some advice for those people who are still looking for Love. Valentine's Day is a difficult time for many in that it highlights the fact that they do not have a significant other in their lives. I used to get really lonely on this day and feel envious when the other ladies in my office would get flowers or go out to a nice meal with their honeys. I used to do the dating sites, which was a disaster. A site where the only reference to your spirituality is to the more generally accepted forms of religion or "spiritual not religious" is simply not good enough for people who spend a great deal of time and effort doing the Great Work.
I realized that in order to find the person I really wanted it would have to be under extraordinary circumstances, not just some mundane dating site, where everyone winks at you like they have some nervous tick. If you do a lot of the Great Work, it almost seems like a relationship with a partner who is not in line or understanding of your viewpoints of spirituality is like having sex without a strong orgasm. You can lay there (or whatever position turns you on), bodies entwined, slurping in each other's divine juices and slapping chakras but do you really get off? Is there really a connection? I also think, that as magickal beings, we lean more to the meaningful, rather than the mundane. Meaningful is a subjective term so I will leave it up to My Dear Readers what that means to them.
I think "meaningful connection" to me means more than a hot, hard, and wet connection between cock and pussy (or whatever combination turns you on), not just two people with just their genitals on fire. Partner sex, like magick, is about people engaged in all the elements, air, fire, water and earth, on many planes. When you cum, it should be a spiritual experience, not just a release of energy, and after the actual physical sex, it should leave you with a feeling of enhanced energy in mind, body and spirit.
As an aside, I also think that other darker magickal beings take advantage of people when they engage in slapping chakras and they could steal some of your personal energy. I had this happen to me a while back and I have something to say to them. GO FUCK YOURSELF IN YOUR FAT ASS!!
I have told My Dear Readers that I am against love spells and the like. I am against it because I think it breaks one of the biggest tenets of magick, "Do not impose your Will upon another". With great power, comes great responsibility and if you want to drag that ball-and-chain responsibility around for the rest of your Life, then by all means, DO IT. But be prepared to tend and maintain everything that it might entail. I have had experiences where I have tried to do magick, just to get laid and it has only been an exercise of "Be Careful for What You Ask For, Because You Might Just Get It". Thank the goddess I still had my wits about me.
So what is my advice for the lonely magician?
First, ask yourself, am I ready for a relationship, then:
WORK ON MAKING YOURSELF MORE ATTRACTIVE
(Also, be prepared to work and/or travel out of your comfort zone)
Lose some weight and get fit. Find that hot body that you love to touch yourself and it will be guaranteed that someone else will want to grope it too. Bathe yourself in sumptuous oils or find a fragrance that smells delectable to you and someone will want to relish that sweet smell. Find yourself a cool hobby so someone that adores it too can stand there and adore your knowledge. Go hang with friends and family, so someone can see how much Love you can truly give. Go see a therapist about your personal issues, so your HOT DATE night doesn't feel like a confessional booth. LOVE YOURSELF
Wash, Rinse and Repeat.